Today, I'm getting vulnerable on Body Bites with Bec and totally changing the tune.

 

I wanted to share the story about how I (nearly) finished building an app last year (an entire 11 month project, self funded and countless hours) only to have it fail, hire lawyers to help me and begin a legal case (that's still going...) and decide to restart the entire process, from the beginning, with a new team, from scratch 🤯.

 

It was the most challenging thing I've been through to date in business so far (8 years) and took a huge toll on my mental health, overwhelm and sleep.

 

In the podcast, you'll learn actionable tips about HOW I got through this challenge to, eventually, come out the other side with a smile and how I simultaneously doubled my team and grew the business to levels I couldn't of ever dreamt of last year, enabling me to buy my dream house, which was so unexpected and NOT the plan for last year.

 

I share this story to normalise the challenges we face on the path to our goals. Success isn't easy, and setbacks are part of the journey. I hope my experience inspires you to stay strong, bounce back, and learn from setbacks on your journey to achieving your goals, whether it's in health, weight loss, or any other area of your life.

Links mentioned:

Download my FREE eBook with 4 15 minute meals: click here

Start your weight loss, gut healing and anti-inflammatory journey now with my 3 Week Body Reset

Continue your journey and figuring out YOUR own balance in the Health with Bec Tribe

Explore my free recipes & website: Click here 

Follow me on instagram: @health_with_bec

 

Listen to my episode on James Wedmores podcast, Mind Your Business: Episode 631. click here

Buy my favourite Morlife products here (enter code healthwithbec for 15% off at checkout)

Read This Episode:

This episode is going to be a little bit different. I'm going to be getting a little bit vulnerable and sharing with you something that I really struggled with last year. This week, the emotions have been brought up again with it, as it's still ongoing, even though I've moved on from the issue and I'll explain why …

I'm sharing this because I wanted to do a podcast on it last year, but I truly believe (and I've learnt this through other experts that I have listened to over the 8 years in my business), that the only way to inspire people is to talk about your challenges after you've overcome them so that you can share the lesson and the story.

As I was going through it last year, I was sharing a bit on Instagram (a bit behind the scenes), but never had the chance to sit down and record a whole podcast with all the lessons from it and I didn't want to do that until I was ready. 

I've gone back and forth on the idea because I know that so many of you aren't business owners, but I know a lot of you are too and you don't have to be a business owner at all to relate this to any challenges that you face in your life. 

I'm compelled to share it because I get frustrated with this whole Instagram world, podcast world, online world where everyone is only seeing a tiny percentage of people's lives. You're only seeing the highlight reel. No one's sharing the struggles and what this does is create a false sense of reality, where it looks like successful businesses are an overnight success, people get things easily or people that are in very happy looking relationships make it look easy, but 90% of the time, there are always things that people are going through behind the scenes. 

There's always struggles that people are going through, but they don't share them on Instagram. A small number of people do. I try my best to share some of the behind the scenes when I can, but in reality, no one is going to want to see all the struggles that I'm going through, all the times that I cry or feel stressed. You really only see a small percentage and it annoys me because it does look like it's so easy for so many people, but it's really not. 

I'm here to really spread this message that you can't achieve big things, without going through challenges, without pushing yourself, without going through the hardships and that's why I want to normalise that there are so many things going on behind the scenes that no one knows about (when you think it might look easy from the outside), which can cause so much comparisonitis and for you to think that you're not doing enough or that person has it easy, when I promise, it’s usually the people that have the things that you want - they're the ones that work the hardest, go through the most struggles or have been through a struggle, overcame it and not given up. 

Also, just to inspire you too, if you're going through a challenge at the moment, I want to be the encouragement to help you push on and realise that it's not supposed to be easy all the time.

If you're a new listener - I've had my business now for 8 years and it's actually my business birthday. I haven't celebrated it or really thought about it, but I've realised that I did launch my business in April, 8 years ago, which is also a timely time to record this podcast as I reflect on the last 8 years and everything that's happened and how everything that I'm doing now, I would have never have dreamt of.

I've never had a set business plan or known what's going to happen by a certain time. I had no idea when I started that I would be selling online weight loss programs, be traveling a lot and live in my dream home. I didn't even know all of this 4 years ago. I didn't know about the dream home until last year. None of it was a plan. I thought that I would be working with clients my whole life (that's how I started), but I had this fire in my belly that I wanted to make a massive impact in the world, but it never looked like this.

My mindset was so limited back then, I had no idea what was possible for me and it just organically happened the harder I've worked and the more people that have got results. I've always just done what you have wanted and the business has evolved from that.

I've created new ideas from your feedback and I just want to say a huge thank you. I would not have been able to grow this business and continue to run and grow this business for an entire 8 years (without giving up) if it wasn't for your support and love towards me and your results every single day. 

Your life changing results are what keep me going, especially through the challenging times, because as an example - the first 1 to 4 years of business, I hadn't learned about business boundaries yet. I was working like a dog. I didn't go on any holidays. I worked every single Saturday. I worked from 6am until sometimes 9pm at night. I was just non-stop and that is the reality for a lot of people that start a business, but it wasn't until I learnt so much more, did heaps of personal growth, heaps of mindset work, binged business podcasts and joined some business courses, that I got to the point where I could let go. 

I hired team members (that was a huge challenge in itself when it's such a personal brand). The entire 8 years has been a challenging journey, but an extremely rewarding one. When I got team members, it gave me the space to launch this podcast. It gave me the space to focus on other areas of the business that I enjoy a bit more and that I should focus on to help the team grow, the business grow, help you more and step away from tasks like emails and constant DMs and little things that I shouldn't be doing. 

So, the business has grown from me working with clients 1:1 for about 3 years. I made personalised meal plans, got to know women so well and then I got to a point where I knew if I wanted to help more women, I needed to scale and reach far more women than what I was seeing per week. 

I was full time with 4 to 5 clients a week (which doesn't sound like much, but that's how personal it was). I would make them personalised meal plans and with all the other runnings of the business (which I'm not going to get into because you won't understand unless you're a business owner), it was a lot. 

That's what made me create the 3 Week Body Reset and learn how to build and sell online programs, (which is a whole other kettle of fish) and then after that, shortly came the Health with Bec Tribe which is my monthly membership for women that have finished the 3 Week Body Reset, got results and want to turn that into a long-term lifestyle.

There's been challenges throughout my entire business journey and what I have learnt and practiced over and over again (by overcoming the challenges and also through so many experts and mentors that I've listened to and watched over the years), is seeing every mistake and challenge as an opportunity to grow. 

At first it didn't feel that easy, but the more I did it, the more it just became a subconscious thing in my mind. In the past, something would go horribly wrong, I'd make a mistake in business, I would freak out, ruin the whole day and I'd stress all day but the more I practice this mindset and think - that's actually a positive thing because now I've learnt what not to do in the future and I won't do it again. That means the business can grow from it, I'll grow from it with experience and it just won't happen again. 

So any little challenge that pops up now becomes less and less significant on my nervous system and I've really become extremely resilient in that way. Whenever you can, no matter what pops up and what challenge you face, anytime you make a mistake or you've hit a challenge, always say to yourself - “this is actually a positive thing because I've now learnt a lesson that I'll try not to repeat in the future. This means I'm growing and I'm actually going upwards towards my goal”. 

I say this to women all the time with their weight loss and health journeys - if you slip up, if you go off track for a week, whatever it is, that is incredible! It's a positive because it probably made you feel crap and then it's taught you something about feeling crap, so that you don't repeat it in the future and eventually you progress further towards your goals.

You have to make mistakes to grow and so now I see most mistakes and challenges as positives. I don't let them stress me out too much and that took years to learn, but I could not recommend that mindset tip more if you really want to reach your goals. As you grow a business, or as you're achieving any goal in life, the reality is that you can only grow to the level at which you can handle the challenges. I learnt that from my mentor, James Wedmore. He is an incredible business owner. He's been an inspiration to me for the last 4 or 5 years. 

I was actually so honoured to go on his podcast, Mind Your Business last year as a guest, which was my dream for years and years. He wanted to interview me about my business journey. It was a dream come true. Any business owners that want to hear a bit more about my business journey and how I've scaled over the last few years with some tips, definitely go and listen to that, but he says that - growth doesn't come without challenges and you're never going to be free of challenges in any area of life. 

Unfortunately, it's just the reality and people stunt their growth or stay in the same place if they hit a challenge and they're not strong enough to get through it or they might think - oh this is too hard and I give up! The people that grow, the people that actually get through those challenges, become stronger  and then they're more prepared to get through the next challenge. 

This leads me to last year where I hit a challenge and I wasn't resilient enough to not let it bother me and think, it's just a lesson and I'll move on! 

What happened last year was bigger than that and it has taken me a while to get over and that's okay too. I remember thinking - ok, how am I getting through this? How can I share what's happening, my feelings, the steps that I'm taking to help me get over this and what I'm doing each day to make me still show up for the business and continue to maintain and grow whilst I'm going through this huge challenge?

I'm now ready to share quite a bit of that with you … 

Last year, my biggest vision and aim (and this was huge) was to launch a custom app. Now the idea was born in 2022 and that's actually when it began.

In October, 2022 (about 18 months ago), is when I signed on with an app team. Now the app is still going to be my same business structure, my same programs - the 3 Week Body Reset & the Health with Bec Tribe because it has been working insanely well for the last 4 or so years. It’s changing lives around the globe and hundreds of women a week are sending through positive results, thousands of women are starting each week and it's going crazy. It's going so well. 

I needed to create an app to make it even better because I've been listening to people's feedback for the last 4 years and I want to create an app that will help people with every little pain point that I've heard over the last 4 years.

As an example (and this is to get you excited and give you a bit of an idea of what's coming with the new app) - when people join my programs, the meal plans and recipes are .pdfs. If you want your partner or kids to join in and you want to double the serves, the shopping list doesn't automatically populate for you. You have to do it yourself and write it down. The app is going to take that problem away! It means you can swap meals around, double meals, triple meals and your shopping list will automatically be calculated. It's just going to be far more interactive and easy for women to use. 

There's so many other things that are coming and I'll be sharing far more about the app, what's included, all the functions and new features that are coming but that's why I decided to do it - to make women's lives change even more because the easier people find it, the more likely they'll follow through with it and the more lives will change.

That’s not to say that my programs aren't working (because they absolutely are) and to be honest some days I wonder why I’m even creating the app when the programs are working so well already, but I've got a vision and I know that it's going to help you even further. 

So, in October 2022, my vision was to launch the following year in 2023. My other vision was to travel and go on a big Europe trip after launching the app, because I knew it would be a solid 7 to 8 months of non-stop work. When you are creating something new in business, it is a heck of a lot of work (far more than I thought), and so I knew that it would feel amazing to travel afterwards. After working for 4 years and putting all of my savings back into the business, focusing primarily on growing the business, my customers, my team, I didn't travel at all. 

Then, I began to find my travel bug. It was so hard to do this but I created more space in my life. I built a team, learnt to work less and do better quality work and I found a balance, so I started to travel a bit more. When I travel, I still work but travel makes me happy and so last year, my vision was to travel and build this app. That's all I wanted for 2022/ 2023. 

It was the most intense project I've ever done in my business life. To put it short, the amount of time it took to explain the business to the app team, to design the thousands of screens, to make edits every single day on the screens, to create all the content for it - we had to go through hundreds of recipes and create tags and rules (I'm not even going to get into it), but it was a lot!

It got to the point where I would miss podcast episodes and I'd have to cancel other business commitments. I was hardly doing any collabs or media articles. I was just running the business. I was keeping the business going, but the app was my primary focus. So I would have to cancel things I loved doing (like the podcast) to be able to answer to the app team. It was a lot of work. 

Long story short, it got to June 2023, when it was meant to launch and we weren't getting any answers. The live parts of the app (that we were seeing) had so many faults. We would tell the team about the faults and they wouldn't get fixed for weeks. I don't want to say too many bad things because I am in a law case about it at the moment. 

It was very messy and it was making me extremely upset because all of last year, I was teasing the women in the Tribe saying it's coming out in 2 months and make sure you don't cancel so you get founding members pricing. I was sharing the behind the scenes of the development and telling everyone on Instagram that it was coming because I thought it was coming! I was told that it was going to be launched in June. 

I felt safe enough to say that the app was coming in a months time. I couldn’t give an exact date, but I knew it was coming and that's what you do when you grow a business - you want to get people excited, it’s all part of the hype. It's a pre-launch strategy to get people to join, to share all the behind the scenes and get them excited. The more I get you excited, the more of you join and the more I can change lives. 

I was so upset because I had been telling everyone that the app was coming and I felt like I was betraying all the women in the Tribe. It got to a point where I realised that the app wasn’t going to work. I was so stressed. I hardly heard from the app development team. I felt like I was the project manager of that entire team. I was disappointed with the quality and communication and they never gave me answers. I had to keep pushing my travel plans back and canceling flights. I couldn't plan any of my year because it was non-stop at work, I was getting no answers and having a breakdown every second week. 

I decided to spend a month talking to different app developers, doing heaps of research on the best practices, what other people have paid and quickly realised that what I was feeling was true - I had been massively ripped off, which felt extremely horrible because I self-funded this app. I put most of my business savings from the first 5 or so years of business into this app. 

It wasn't just about the money either, by this time, it had been about 10 months of constant time poured into it and the ‘time’ upset me the most. I felt like I had wasted so much time and was letting everyone down because there was no app and my vision for launching this app was not looking good. 

I had been ripped off. I had to make the call after about 6 weeks of research and voicing to the app team that I was concerned (to see if they could speed up the work or give me any answers), and that didn't happen. I was unsure if I should stay with that app development team to see if they could finish it or if I should get someone else to take over and build another app from scratch? 

Any time you're in an unknown stage of your life, no matter what the situation is, that is what causes the most stress and anxiety and when I get stressed, anxious and I'm in the unknown, it affects my sleep. I had insomnia for weeks on end. It wasn't fun. 

I had to tell the app development team to stop work, I got lawyers involved, and then it got worse after that. As soon as I said that I wanted to stop work, they hid everything from me (even though I'd paid them over $200,000 of my own money) - all the design files, everything that I owned!

I've been trying to get lawyers to fight to get that back. I owed them a little bit of money, so they said that I needed to pay that (even though the app wasn't finished) for them to give those files back, which was horrible. I was devastated. I felt betrayed and as the law case progressed, they still wouldn't give it back. 

I wanted to get this app done for you and a law case could go for 1 or 2 years, so I had to employ another app team and literally start from scratch again. When I say from scratch - just the design part of the app itself (building all the little tiny screens) took about 4 months of solid work with the prior team. So, getting my head around having to start from scratch again was horrible but I did it.

We re-started late October 2023. I only had a 3 week break and in that break, it was all law evidence case work - spending time with the lawyers and gathering evidence. It wasn't an easy year and I'm sharing this to give you an idea of what happened and to say that it wasn't easy. I'm not saying this for a pity party because I'm about to share the positives, what happened on the other side of that and what I did to get through it because it was very shit what happened but I feel so proud of myself for not only getting through it, but for growing the business to a level that is beyond my wildest dreams (and was absolutely not expected). 

The fact that I could grow my business whilst I was struggling so much behind the scenes, makes me feel really proud of myself and because I was able to scale the business last year, I was seeing more and more of your lives change. The more your lives change, the more it motivates me to stay strong. So I just want to say another thank you, because I know a lot of you didn't know that I was struggling, but you helped me in ways that you don’t realise. You would be so beautiful in the Health with Bec Tribe sharing all of your wonderful feedback, food, results, all the Google reviews that came through, the DM - honestly, you are what keeps me going. So thank you so much! 

It did help me keep going and to stay strong and resilient. I didn't think I was strong at the time, but looking back, I was strong. I showed up for work every single day, I kept the business going, I doubled my team to keep up with the growth of the sales and how many women were joining and I can't believe that happened when I was struggling behind the scenes. Then, I ended up buying my dream house! 

My vision was not to grow the business and buy my dream house. My vision was to launch the app and go traveling after it launched. I still weaved some last minute travel in but it was last minute because of what was going on with the app team. There were scattered short trips, but I made that happen because I wanted to stay true to what makes me happy and traveling makes me happy. 

Unfortunately, on those trips, there was hardly any time off. When you saw me traveling last year (and when you see me traveling now), yes, I look happy and I am, but I'm still working. Some of the trips last year, I felt weird sharing online. For instance, there was a last minute trip to Bali, which I had to do for my mental health but the entire time, I was gathering evidence for this law case and feeling shit the whole time. Bali made me feel a bit happier and it probably looked glamorous from the outside, but that couldn't be further from the truth. I still relaxed, ended my day with massages and stayed in a beautiful place but the reality was that I was struggling with my mental health. What you see on social media, isn't the whole truth and I always want people to remember that because I don't want to be one of those women that conform to making things look easy all the time on Instagram. I don't like that. 

Sometimes you can plan things in life and have goals, but it's inevitable sometimes for things to change and even if you set a vision for yourself, it will come true but it might take longer than you think, and that is okay. Even if it doesn't come true, something else might happen that's beautiful, that you didn’t expect. 

For me, the business growth wasn't expected and I'm very grateful for that too. I'm so proud of myself for working so hard because it's made me able to afford to build an entirely new app and fund that myself as well and move into my dream home (which I didn't see coming), but it's only because I showed up every single day to stay true with my vision of keeping the business growing and changing your lives.

That was a bizarre year for me because my vision was to launch the app and travel, then halfway through the year, I thought - depending on how the business goes, perhaps in 2025, I'll be ready to buy my next house then. It was a loose vision and I'm going to say this as a side note - it absolutely wasn't and never has been a goal of mine to buy a house and think that a house will make me happy. 

I've heard many experts, mentors and successful people say that if you think like that, it doesn't make you happy and I truly agree. If you focus on your purpose, your vision and making an impact on people's lives first, that's what brings you true happiness. The money is a side effect and that's what I've always thought. That's why buying a house wasn't a big priority. What makes me happy is seeing your lives change, traveling and spending time with friends and family. That is the core of what makes everyone happy but because I knew the app wasn’t going to happen, I had this little gut feeling (because I'd seen that the business had grown) that I could potentially buy a new house …

I found my dream home (it’s actually beyond my wildest dreams). I've always manifested a view because when I have a view of water or greenery, it inspires me to work and the more inspired I am to work, the better work I do and the better work I do, the more lives I change.  

This isn't supposed to be part of the podcast, but it's all related because it's a vision that came true when I didn't think it was my vision and it shows you how things can change and work out better than you thought, but this house is incredible. I share it on my Instagram all the time. If you are not following me yet, I'm @health_with_bec on Instagram and you can see a lot of it there. 

Every day that I'm home, I think to myself how proud I am and how life can truly change when you think you're going through something so challenging at the time and your visions are gone for the year, but then something better can be around the corner and this house does feel very special because it is a result of 8 years of hard work. 

Even though it was the fast business growth that happened last year which allowed me to get this house, it’s been a slow build up of the prior 7 years of work. I couldn't have had a huge growth in business if I didn't do all the groundwork for an entire 7 years before that. So I look back on the last 8 years and think - this is so cool because whilst a house doesn't bring me happiness, it helps. It helps me work better. It makes me feel proud. I'm very excited by it. It's beautiful and it's nice to be able to entertain more. 

So how did I get through that challenging time? 

I reached out for a lot of support. I always get support from my parents and I'm always talking to them about what's going on. I'm always sharing with my friends about what's going on but I just leaned on a couple of best friends even more. I lent on my parents more and I just let myself cry to them. I even lent on team members. I wasn't trying to be this strong boss that never cries or shows emotions. I was honest with them about what was going on and the more you do that, the more support you get back. It's really important to do that. 

It is key to not hold things in and to ask for far more support when you're struggling, because it absolutely does help. When I started to talk about it to other people, they were so supportive and also not only that, people would share about their struggles too which would remind me that everyone's going through something, so it would make me feel less alone. Whenever you're going through a struggle the more you talk about it, the more people open back up to you and you realise that you're not alone in it and you can get that love and support that you need in that time. 

I also pulled back from anything that was strenuous on the weekend. I've learned this balance over the last 8 years, but I didn't feel like going out with big groups of people or doing much on the weekends. I used the weekends to spend time with my best friends that knew about what I was going through (either in person or over the phone), I spent more time with my parents, doing wholesome, relaxing things and trying to catch up on sleep. I focused the weekends, as much as I could, on taking care of myself and being with my loved ones and saying no to other things that I didn't feel like I had the energy to do. 

I truly believe that the more you let yourself feel things, the faster you get over them. I would have to show up for work Monday to Friday and put a brave face on, but then I would use most night times to really just be in my feelings, reach out for support and same with the weekends - be in my feelings, cry, reach out for support and I truly believe that helped me get over it faster. I think I got over it within 2 to 3 months. 

My happiness, my sense of peace and my sleep got better when I made the decision to stop with the first app development team, to get lawyers involved and find a new team. I know that a lot of people can relate to this with other areas of their life as well. If there is a situation that's dragging you down, if you're caught up in a certain environment at work, in a certain relationship or you're caught up in a certain friendship where you don't feel happy and it’s causing this unstable energy, it's really hard to cut it. 

For me, it was really hard to cut it because it was 10 or 11 months of work and I knew it was going to be so much work to start with a new team, but when I made that call and I never had to email them again, it was this sense of freedom that made me feel a lot better and made me feel happier as well.

I also booked a trip straight away. I flew to Italy and Amsterdam for 2 weeks. So that was great. It was still busy because I was doing work with the lawyers and starting with my new app team in the second week of my trip, but it was still really fun. I know that Italy makes me extremely happy! I'm proud of myself that I just booked that flight and I did that even though work was so busy, I’d just bought a house and I knew that I'd be moving in a week after I got back from that trip. Then, when I got back from the trip, I moved into this house and it felt like this new start, this new sense of freedom and I put it all behind me. 

3 key things from that is - 

Making the decision to remove yourself from a situation as hard as it may seem, to give you the space to just change paths, change directions, create new friendships, create new relationships, create a new work environment, whatever it is for you. For me, it was cutting this app team out and finding a new one. 

Being in your feels by letting yourself feel it. Not being ashamed of it, taking care of yourself, spending more time resting, more time doing things for yourself, self-care, whatever that means for you. 

Reaching out for far more support and not holding your emotions in, letting people know what is going on, because that is very therapeutic and it absolutely helps.

Of course, throughout this time, it was hard to find the positives. I couldn't find it because it was such a big event and sometimes you don't find the lesson until something better happens, you move on or enough time has passed. 

The positives came when I started working with this new app team, they are incredible. They are so experienced. It's been far easier. It's still a lot of work, but it's been far easier with them. They've got so many ideas about how I could improve certain ideas that I had. So I know now with all of my heart that if I didn't change teams, the app wouldn't be as good. This app is going to be a million times better which means your lives are just going to change even more, you're going to find it way easier and I know it’s going to help the business grow. I can see that positive now. 

When I moved into this house, I realised how much stronger I was as a person. When doing renovations, you can easily get ripped off by trades, especially because I've bought this house by myself. I live here by myself. I'm a young woman. I'm an easy target for people to take advantage of (or so they think), but they haven't been able to, because I have become so much stronger in the way that I'm asking so many more questions and I've been getting way more quotes. I won’t let anyone betray my trust or rip me off or take advantage of me. I don't want poor quality work to be done in my house and to be charged a heck of a lot for it (just like I was with my app). 

That experience made me so much stronger because I'm such an understanding person. I'm a very trusting person and I've never been screwed over by staff members before or by contractors (no one that I've worked with). I've just given them all of my trust and it's always worked out well and I guess that's what I did with the app team but I've realised that isn't the reality in life. 

There aren't people that always have the best heart and intention, the same as I do. I will always keep that trait. It's just part of my nature and I'll always be a trusting, loving person, but I’ve got more of a backbone when it comes to major things like paying for house renovations and big business decisions.

I think I was a little too quick to hire the last app team. I know I was! I just went off their word and I didn't take the time to read all of their reviews, see how many years they've been in business, take my time before I hired them and hand over my money. I didn't do that. Looking back, I rushed into it because it wasn't until I got midway through 2023, when I did all that research and spoke to heaps of developers, I realised that I should have done this before. I dove too quickly into building this app from the beginning.

So that's what I've learnt and it’s a cool feeling because I don't think I would have actually been able to buy this house and do the renovations by myself. I can see the strength that's come from just this project in itself, from what happened last year and so many other aspects of my business now as well. 

Now anything that happens, I've learnt to let go so much more. Same with a few things in my personal life, I just think - okay, if I could get through that last year, I can get through anything!

As an example, my car got stolen a couple of weeks ago. I realised at 7 o'clock in the morning, but I had a big day of work to get on with and my nervous system didn't get affected. That sounds crazy, but it is a solvable issue. It's a bit annoying because of all the admin, but I didn't care. That is another beautiful thing that happens when you go through HUGE challenges is that you learn to look back and see it as a chance for growth, because some people don't and they stay stuck. 

A lot of people would've given up and not built a new app and maybe even given up on the business or stayed paralysed for a year or longer, but I did get over it fast and I have become so much stronger. When you can look back and know that you have overcome something so big, it is a beautiful thing because when things happen in the future, you know that you can get through it because you’ve got through something far bigger before. So that is the beauty of challenges as well. 

I'm sharing this as well to give you a bit of an update. The law case is still going and it's been stretched out, but now it has got to the point where I'm about to go to mediation, which is the stage before court. I don't know what the outcome is going to be, but I'm trying to tell myself that whatever happens is fine. 

This podcast is very long and I want to end it by going back to the start and saying - yes, you can see that I'm living in a beautiful house, I'm changing thousands of women's lives around the world, I'm traveling and staying at beautiful places and whilst that's amazing and I'm so proud of myself, I want to share that it hasn't been easy. Last year was a challenge. 

I love doing what I do, but it's very hard to grow and scale a business. Even at the moment, I'm in the process of growing my team even more and that's hard - training team members, systemising more, growing the team and there's far more team management to do at every stage that I'm growing. It's not easy, and like I said, you only grow to the level of the challenges that you can deal with, overcome and get through.

So when someone buys a house (or whatever looks like success to you), I really want to remind you that it doesn't come without challenges. Those people have faced a lot of things and they've worked extremely hard to get there. I know that I have absolutely done that. Instagram is a highlight reel.

No matter how happy people look or how good their lives look, they could be going through something that you don't know about because no one shares the negative behind the scenes of their life and so it's also a message to remember that when you're interacting with people, be as kind as you possibly can, because you never know what someone is going through. 

I also want to say to everyone listening, whatever goal you're trying to reach, whatever you're trying to do, whether it's losing weight, growing your business, excelling in your career - keep going! 

When you do hit a challenge, know that it is extremely normal and you will get through it, if you keep pushing on and your vision is strong enough. Not only will you get through it, you'll feel stronger for the next challenge that comes and if I could get through that, I know that you can get through anything too.

We are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. I hope you can take some inspiration from this episode and I also hope that any time a small challenge comes your way, you can have that mindset that I do every day which is - this is actually an exciting thing, because this is a lesson for growth!

The huge events in your life, they take a bit longer, but the silver lining will come like it did for me. You will one day look back and know it happened for a reason. There's always some sort of good that comes from the horrible things or the challenges that happen in your life. 

I have been meaning to share that for a while and I hope it also encourages you to know that good things take time and also good things don't come without challenges.

Anything's possible for you if you believe in yourself enough and you push on and don't give up. So many people give up, but the people that achieve big things are the ones that don't give up when times get tough. Sometimes you need to lean on people for support, give yourself more time to take care of yourself and sit in the feels, but then eventually push on and see it as a lesson, keep going and keep striving. 

Always remember to ask people how they are, to support people, to know that no one's happy 24/7 and we're all going through stuff as we're trying to achieve our goals and kick on with the things that are important.

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